Friday, March 14, 2008

When husband's get sick

Ok, I need to know if I am in the minority here. We've been fighting sickness for over a week at my house. Starting with one child, on to the next and so on. So, here's the dilemma: when my kids are sick, I pretty much pamper them, give them medicine, plenty of fluids, let them watch movies, read them books etc. Typical mom behavior I would suspect. However, what exactly am I supposed to do for my dear hubby when it's his turn to get sick? Maybe that is part of my problem, since I don't know what to do, I don't do much at all for him. And the worst part is, I am horribly unsympathetic. I don't mean to be, it just sort of comes out that way.

I think some of my poor attitude comes from being a poor neglected mom. If I am sick, I still have to wake up, get the kids dressed and ready for school. I might not do the laundry or clean the bathroom, but kids still need breakfast, lunch, and dinner. In contrast, if the husband is sick, he stays in bed extra long, and takes naps, and doesn't do much of ANYTHING. Sure he gets better faster, but it just doesn't seem fair.

Earlier this week, my friend was helping me out by watching the kids while I went to work. Hubby didn't feel well, and said he would go into work "a little later". So, my friend picks up my one daughter and watches her all morning. She ALSO drove back to my house to pick up my older daughter when she got off the school bus. Well, guess what, hubby was at home the whole time. Not only did he sleep all morning, he LET MY FRIEND take both girls back home with her, so he could rest all afternoon alone too. There is NO DOUBT in my mind that he didn't feel well that day. But for some reason, I just have no sympathy for him. Should I be grateful that he was able to get some sleep while my friend watched our children??? Am I alone in thinking he was taking too much advantage of the situation? Am I wrong to feel like this? Like I said, I know he wasn't feeling well, but lets be honest, it was just a cold!

8 comments:

Karena said...

I also find it hard to be sympathetic with men get sick. With the winter being the way it has, we've been having colds and flus that keep cycling through our house. We try to get as much sleep as possible, but adults don't have the same luxuries as their children. Don't our men know this? I'm with you.

devri said...

I totaly agree, My husband is also sick with just a cold, and he is acting like it is the end of the world, but funny, when it comes to scary or horrible things, like internal bleeding or cancer, he did soo much better with. I am also sick, but I still cook clean, babysitter,run the errands, pay the bills, and being in the last month of this pregnancy, not very happy about the whole situation.( of being sick that is)

Emily and Kyle said...

k, I don't know if you remember us! But we found you on Karena's blog. You are so talented. My husband and I checked out your artwork...um, you should be charging a lot more! I'm so serious. You could be charging at least double! I would pay it! I want one like that wagon with the flowers in it...love it so much, too bad it sold! Are you having a boy or a girl????

Emily and Kyle said...

I really do want one with the wagon...for my little girls room...I don't have a little girl and I'm not pregnant...so I will let you know when the girl happens! I think it would be so cute to put a few of your flower artworks in "her" room...what if I don't ever get a her?????

Rosebud Collection said...

I don't think men are too good at being sick..My uncle was a doctor and he always told me,"If man had the first baby, woman had the second, there would never be a third"..

Brenda said...

I've already expressed my opinion of the "man cold" on my blog. But I couldn't leave you hanging on this one. I give you a big HERE, HERE! Men are wimps and we are martyrs.

Kenney Crew said...

Having a sick hubby STINKS!!! Dealing with one for the last several years, I'm fairly experienced with this subject. Be thankful he gets better quickly because they just get harder and harder to deal with. As Todd got worse, I did manage to find some compassion with the situation, but it wasn't always easy...maybe that's why it took so long for him to get his transplant.

Teri said...

HA HA!!! You are so funny and completely correct.

Is he feeling any better? :)